YOU ARE ENOUGH!

September 22, 2018

YOU ARE ENOUGH!

Sharon's story is one of those unfortunate stories that should only happen in movies like scandal...(I watched only 2 episodes and gave up) Normally I would be the first to savagely and passionately comment on this with the entire Bible as reference. This time round however, I realize I am not morally prepared or equipped to lift my voice.

How can I when societal pressure is almost catching up with me? I used to unknowingly judge people who succumb to the social media perfect life craze till I had to go through the pressure myself (I still am) to fully understand what drove people to their moral deaths.

Mine is not really social media because I never cared so much about it, but people!

The problem comes in when people generally assume I need some form "of fixing!" At one time I was unusually quite at work and that evening I got 3 calls from my colleagues who without even asking started giving me advice! I appreciate it really... but I wouldn't mind a "hey girl, whats up?" before we got to the motivation speech.

The most annoying one is how people have made it their business to get me hooked up and how every little bit of action is attributed to me being single(bite me!) Its amazing how suddenly finding a husband is urgent for me according to people, take a chill pill guys!

You talk too much, you should get a man to shut you up (the nerve!)
You have so much energy, you should get a man to release some of that energy (as if)
Blood sugar goes down, solution? You guessed it- get a man!
Working an extra hour to finish up some work (most creatives have to at one point)... stop prioritizing the wrong things go out and get a man...
I mean seriously...! if he is supposed to come and sort out all my issues, I am literally scared on his behalf!

As light as the statements sound and however much I laughed them off, they slowly ate their way into my system and before I knew it, I was captured in the pressure trap. Then the "what ifs and maybes" caught up with me. Eventually I managed to convince myself I needed help! Yoh I even booked an appointment with a shrink (I never called back by the way)

Sure thing, I need help, everybody does, but the kind of help I want I cant get from a shrink or anyone else for the matter. My only sure source of help is God, and I am developing a habit of talking to him about all my little frustrations. The more I confide in him, the more I realize...Niko tu sawa! My life is turning out exactly how he wants it to and it is beautiful, no matter what the world sees.

There is so much pressure out here and EVERYBODY is affected either directly or indirectly even the self proclaimed mini Gandhi's. Honestly speaking we are all just a bunch of broken people trying to fix other people brokenness to appear important and trend on twitter! A bunch of sinners condemning others because they sin differently. Judging people by the length of their skirts instead of focusing on real issues!

With that said, frustration will come, disappointments and discouragements alike, but never at any point ever doubt the good work God begun in you, because he will see it through (Philippians 1:6). Not every battle is worth your amour honey! You actually can choose what to respond to!

Also find a human to confide in, someone you can trust, someone who will not be afraid to tell you the ugly truth and still love you despite your stupidity. If you have sisters or brothers like me...that's a good place to start from and don't forget, no matter what the voices are telling you...you are enough!

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