SILVER YEAR- PURPOSE, SURRENDER, TRUST

In my previous post I mentioned that 25 is an age that is equally dreaded and equally coveted. Here is the catch, if you are still single and a lady at 25 (like I am)…poor you! Prepare for a statistic class from all calibers of people as they bombarded you with advice after advice about the number of people who remained single for long and ended up alone, miserable and unhappy.  Then of course you will try to defend yourself with the usual, my time will just come, but they will go on non-stop and even tell you that your expectations are unrealistic that you need to drop some and be flexible. They will drop the ‘get Mr. Left and drag him to the right’ not realising how rediculas they sound.

You still feel convinced because probably it’s not the first time you are hearing that and you go ahead to give examples of people who actually started late and are evidently happy…please! They brush it off with a sarcastic ‘hao ni wao.’  Don’t bother mentioning love because these people don’t believe in it at all, for for some reason they believe people stay together because of mainly two things, sex and money…the other stuff is sheer fantasy that only exists in romantic movies, by now you  will resort to the bibles Gods time is perfect and argue passionately for a while, repeating over and over again how okay you are until you finally succumb. All your believes, hopes and dreams come crumbling down and suddenly your single and happy slogan doesn’t feel happy any more. 

It has happened to me…so I know! However, I took a stand last year Read it here,and am sticking with it! Now don’t think I’ve got it all figured out, far from it! I am scared, scared that I am growing old and less attractive each passing minute, scared that may be they are right, that I  am living an impossible fairy tale, scared that Mr. Right will always look wrong to me, scared that probably I have already rejected ‘the one’ hell! Sometime I even imagine that maybe because there are no marriages in heaven, the God does not really care about marriage, scared that love is just a passing illusion…so yea, am scared, but: I decide to stick with my purpose, surrender all to him and trust him who created me.

See,It’s not about you…the purpose of your life is far much greater than ‘me, myself and I’ greater than marriage or  kids, or even your  husband. Keep the main thing the main thing. 

Second, you were created by God, for God. So everything that happens in your life must be approved by God, including the Man you marry. For me, I have surrendered my life completely to him, I gave him my all, my everything, all my decisions pass through him first. Make this decision today, if you haven't.

Third, I trust God with your life. He gave it to you anyway. The only opinion that really matters is God’s; after all you are to spend eternity with him, not your husband! Whatever he chooses for you is what is best, and I know for sure that he will never give you something he does not approve -unless if it is a test- in which case, grace will abound.

My journey through the bible has taught me one great thing. Love- pure, unconditional, selfless, kind, patient, undeserved Love. I have tasted it, am living in this kind of love. It will be hard for me to either give less or receive less because then I would only feel like a disappointment to Love himself.

Conclusion of the matter. Darling you are still very young, relax. Let them call you whatever they wish, advice you, laugh at you and even deem you crazy…but fix your eyes on God he will never disappoint. When your time comes, the blind will see it, and the deaf hear it! God wants you to shine. Remember when you shine, God shines more!